~ Today I wanted to share with you one of my fellow blogger friends. We met and discovered that we both have grown our family through the gift of adoption. She writes a wonderful blog, Sweet Little Ones, and is one of our co-hosts for the Tuesday Talk link-ups! Her story is so powerful. Please take the time to encourage your heart and read her words! ~
Hello! I’m Jessica, one half of the sister duo at Sweet Little Ones. And I’m so excited that Sarah asked me to share my family’s adoption journey with all of you today!
Adoption is quite the roller coaster ride – but it is so worth it in the end when you have that little one in your arms. Here is our exciting, difficult, and beautiful story:
My husband Jim and I have been blessed with 3 children through the gift of adoption over the past 4 years. Prior to that, we struggled with infertility for several years. And as difficult as the cross of infertility is, we now see it as a blessing too. We are so grateful to God because through our struggle to start our family biologically, it led us to see that God was calling us to adoption. And that was always His Plan A for us to grow our family.
So we began the domestic adoption process in late 2010, and got on the list at the beginning of 2011. And then after waiting a very-long-to-us 6 months, we got the call that we had been waiting for: we had been matched with a potential birthmother! She was due in 6 weeks, and she wanted to meet us the following week. We were so excited…and nervous!
Then, the day before we were supposed to meet her, we got a call from our agency. Well, my pessimistic self thought for sure they were calling to tell us that the birthmother chose someone else, so they were cancelling our meeting. Boy, was I in for a surprise – they were calling to tell us that she had her baby 6 weeks early and that we were to be on call to come straight to the hospital to come and meet our daughter. Talk about a major (awesome and crazy!) shock!
Needless to say, we didn’t sleep that night because we were rushing around getting things ready and waiting for the phone to ring. But we didn’t hear back. So the following morning (the day we were originally scheduled to meet the birthmother), we went to Mass at a nearby Catholic Church to try to stay calm while waiting for the call. And as soon as Mass was over, we received the call to come to the hospital to get our daughter!
At the hospital, we met our daughter J and her amazing birthmother. She showed J and us such an incredible love. We spent 3 hours with her and J, getting to know her better. I can’t say enough how we are so grateful to her for
giving such a loving and unselfish gift of life to our family. J is such a blessing.
|Our daughter J|
Then in 2012, after a lot of prayer, we decided to expand our
family and start the adoption process again. We were matched within a month of becoming active to a potential birthmother who was due in October. We met with her and talked on the phone. But when he was born 2 months later, she decided to parent. Losing this Baby was heart-wrenching. We felt an array of emotions from loss to betrayal to sorrow.
But from Day 1 (even while waiting for J), we always prayed for peace and strength for the birthmother and for whatever was best for the baby. We knew that this was God’s plan for this family and ours. But it was still so difficult at the time to lose him! So we kept reminding ourselves that God had a Baby out there who was meant to be ours…
And to our surprise, our prayer was answered 4 days later – we were matched again already! At first, it was very difficult because we were still grieving the Baby we just lost, but our agency helped us through our emotions to get us back on track.
So, we met with this new birthmother several times, and she was such an amazing and loving woman. She was so funny and very sweet to us. She actually told us something very special at this meeting: she said that she knew people had been praying for her because of the overwhelming peace she felt when choosing our agency and then us. That peace helped her know that she was making the right decision. Talk about goosebumps and feeling the power of prayer. Wow!
So when Santa Claus is putting out all the presents at 11:30pm on Christmas Eve, we got the call that she went into labor. We took our daughter J to my parents’ house during the wee hours on Christmas morning and then went to the hospital. What an amazing Christmas gift we were going to receive this year!
Well, our son B had other plans. He held out til the next day, the little stinker. (We tease that he didn’t want to share a birthday with Jesus after all! 😉 We are so grateful to his birthmother for her love and gift of life to us. B is such a gift!
|Our son B|
So 2 years later in 2014, we felt the call to grow our family through adoption again. We got back on the list and thought that there was no way that we could possibly have another short 6 month wait like our first 2 were. So we prepared our hearts for a long wait this time around. Well, I was wrong on the amount of time, but not about how much we needed to prepare our hearts…
After only 4 months of waiting, we got matched with a birthmother due with twins in December. But almost as quickly as we were matched, it fell through. It was very disappointing, but we knew God would have the perfect little one out there for us.
And sure enough, on the exact same day the twins fell through, we got a call from the agency. We were matched again. With TWINS AGAIN. I kid you not. All I could do was laugh! Surely, we were meant to have twins!
I put my heart into these twins due in March. My husband tried to help me not attach myself to them too much, but I didn’t listen. Because getting matched with twins twice? It just had to happen, right? Right?! I thought it was a sure thing.
But nothing is a sure thing in adoption. Two months later in January 2015, these twins fell through too. I was very upset at first. I had placed these twins in our family. Named them. Pictured them growing up with J and B. Being our little ones. It was so hard to erase that and know that it would never be.
But as I had to keep telling myself that God knows what He’s doing. He will bring the perfect little one into our family. The one who was always meant to be with us. We just have to keep praying and trusting in Him (even when…no, especially when it’s difficult)!
So only 1 short month ago on a regular day in March, I decided to turn my phone off for 1 hour to charge it. One short hour. Well, in that one hour, our world went to chaos!
After my phone was fully charged, I turned it back on to see I had 5 voicemails and that I was immediately getting a call from our agency. Apparently, I was the last to know that we had been matched with a birthmother…who had her baby 2 days ago! And that we needed to come to the hospital to get our son immediately. Panic, excitement, shock, complete joy; you name it, and I felt it all in that one phone call!
So we dropped everything, got Jim’s mom to watch J and B, and went straight to the hospital. There, we met our son L’s birthmother and father – two incredibly brave and loving people. You could clearly see the tremendous amount of love they had for L. We are so grateful to them for entrusting us with the care of their little one! Then, a short 14 hours after the first phone call, we had L at home with us…as our son.
|Our son L|
It’s so amazing to think that each one of our children was especially chosen by God to be in our family. You can so clearly see His Hand in all the details surrounding each of their stories. What miracles they truly are!
|Our beautiful gifts|
So this is our story…so far! I know it’s kind of lengthy, but I wanted to honestly share all of the struggles and the joys with you. What helped me the most during our difficulties was to hear other couple’s journeys who had gone through the same thing. My prayer is that now I can now pass on encouragement and hope to others, like how those couples did for me!
I would love to hear how adoption has touched your life or answer any of your questions! You can contact me through social media, our blog Sweet Little Ones, or at sweetlittleonesblog[at]gmail[dot]com. I’m looking forward to hearing from you!
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