Dear Birth Mother,
First I’d like to start this letter by telling you thank you for this incredible boy that we both call son. I want you to know he is so very loved. I know you love him too. That is very evident in the fact that you cared for him for as long as you could and then you left him bundled up snug and warm with a bottle right where he would be found immediately.
I don’t know the facts, but in my heart I feel it was because you knew you couldn’t care for his special needs. But, he is healthy and thriving now because you made the heart wrenching decision to give him up so he could get the medical attention he needed. I wish you hadn’t been put in that position. I wish he never had to face abandonment. That he would have had access to all opportunities he needed to thrive. I wish he would have had the opportunity to go to school and learn.
He loves to learn new things and he is so smart! He is so strong and so brave. I think of all the things he has been through in his short life and I know I could never go through those things, even as an adult, and still have the love and joy he has. His smile lights up a room. He has adorable dimples. The sound of his laugh is amazing. He is so curious and thoughtful. He is an incredible boy, our son.
I wish he still had you and neither of you had to face the pain you’ve faced, but I’m also so thankful to have him in my life. Adoption is so hard. Your brokenness, our son’s brokenness, brought him to me. I’m not going to pretend like it’s been easy. It hasn’t been. But God is equipping us and giving us grace. Our son is making great strides. It’s incredible.
I think about you often. When I’m watching him sleep and he looks so content and peaceful, I think about where you are at that moment and if you are thinking about him. On his birthday, even though it was the day given to him by the orphanage, I know it is close enough to the time he was actually born and you are remembering. I know you are wondering where he is and how he is doing. I know you are hoping you made the right decision and he is healthy and loved. I would give anything to be able to reassure you that he is. I would love to be able to send you pictures of him so you could see his smile. To let you know he has a big family that adores him. He has two brothers, one sister, and he is about to get another sister. He has grandparents, aunts, uncles, and many cousins. He is so loved.
Please know I pray for you often. I am only the mother to this incredible boy because you made the tough decision to give him up. I don’t take that lightly. Thank you.
Sincerely, the other half of our son’s heart,
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