Are you believing lies? The ones whispered behind your back. The ones you say to yourself with a glance in the mirror. The lies have overtaken your heart. Motherhood no longer feels good or easy. You feel like all of the lies are keeping you from enjoying life. Enjoying your kids.
If motherhood is easy, why am I struggling?
What happens when I mess up my kids for the rest of their life?
If motherhood was all I dreamed about for yeas, why do I feel unsatisfied?
Everything depends on me.
Does what I do even matter?
My child’s bad choices mean I must have done something wrong.
Myths. All of those phrases above are horrible myths moms have started believing! We may think we aren’t believing it. I didn’t think I was. To be honest, I felt I had a pretty realistic view about motherhood. I didn’t have it all figured out, but I thought I knew myself and what I was believing. Nope. Turns out, I’ve been believing some myths about motherhood after all. Not necessarily in my mind. I knew the truth in my head, but my heart was another story. Turns out most of these myths we KNOW are untrue, but our heart attitudes reveal something different.
The one myth I was believing was: Motherhood is the luck of the draw. I knew God had placed each of my children in our family for a reason. Yet, I found myself struggling with my seven-year-old and his attention problems. My sassy three year old is a wild passionate creature I can barely handle each day. As soon as we brought our China-girl home I started questioning whether I was supposed to be her mother. I second guessed every decision leading up to bringing her home. The lack of control unnerved me. I really thought, Good luck kids! Sorry you have me as your mom, I hope you can do better with your future spouse.
After ready Karen and Ruth’s book, I felt this huge burden lift off my shoulders. I’ve discovered the ability to live in the truth that God has equipped me to raise these children. My children (all of them) were hand-picked by God to be with me. I am not in control, but God is. He planned it. Orchestrated it. And He will equip me to be just the right mother for them.
Are you struggling with some lies about motherhood? You may not think you are, but I challenge you to pick up Hoodwinked: Ten Myths Moms Believe & Why We All Need to Knock It Off. It doesn’t matter if your child is 6 months old, six years old, sixteen years old, or twenty-six years old – this book is applicable to mothers of all ages!
ABOUT THE AUTHORS:
Ruth Schwenk has four children ages ranging from elementary school to high school. She is the creator of The Better Mom blog and with her husband Patrick they began a family-centered place online called For the Family.
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