Before I entered the adoption world, I didn’t think many people adopted after having biological children. BUT THEY DO! And I love that. So much.
I gathered together a group of women who are willing to share their adoption story for this adoption series: “Adoption After Biological Children.” I am so excited for you to read these stories. Just because you can have biological children, you can still (and SHOULD!) adopt. Those who adopt after biological children face different challenges than those who enter the adoption world after infertility. My goal for this series is to shed light into the world of adoption. One story at a time.
Today Brittany shares her story here…..
Easy and Comfortable
Some people grow up knowing they will adopt a child someday, or give love to the fatherless. If I’m honest, Blake and I really didn’t. However, for us it has been a gradual growing of our hearts and it has been amazing to see the pieces woven together by God, every step of the way.
Blake and I married at age 23, after my college graduation. I quickly finished my masters’ degree and found a teaching job that I loved. Blake settled into his career, we bought our first home, and joined a church. Our first years of our marriage were spent traveling, games nights with friends and building our foundation as a couple.
Life was easy and comfortable.
Five years after our wedding, we welcomed our first son, Layton, and then two years later we added his little brother, Luke.
Pregnancies went well, births went as planned and babies grew accordingly. Life was easy and comfortable.
At the age of 30, my husband and I had been blessed with two biological sons. They were healthy, handsome and happy. My heart was looking forward to another biological child in our future. Adoption still was not on our radar.
Life was easy and comfortable.
When our youngest son was almost two years old, the Lord intervened. He changed our hearts, our direction and our lives. Out of the blue, I felt a very strong calling to go on a mission’s trip. That year, Blake and I took leaps of faith to serve overseas and share the gospel for the very first time. It was suppose to be a “one and done” trip, it was supposed to be a “bucket list” check. What it became was the first glimpse of our love for the nations and ultimately the love for our daughter, who wasn’t even born yet. We returned home to our life that was still easy and comfortable. But suddenly we were no longer content in easy and comfy.
“Lord, what is your will for our lives? Are you growing our hearts for something more?”
During this time, we watched our precious friends welcome home a sweet Korean girl named Ella. It was amazing to watch their process, see their faith grow, and their family blossom. I had a lump in my throat that night at the airport; I knew this was the tug from the Lord that this was our future too.
As the years continued, I went through a season of unrest. I followed up on that “one mission trip” with four more….Africa, Europe, Thailand and China. Blake went on three more. Each trip was confirmation of what our hearts were feeling. Our love for the world, the lost and the hurting was undeniable. I knew deep down that this was the path the Lord was leading. Now the question was obedience.
My prayer became for the Lord to show me what He wanted from us. Not a life that was easy and comfortable. But a life that glorified Him.
We knew the time had come. It was undeniable. Adoption was His plan. We knew that our daughter was waiting for us on the other side of the world.
An application, a million forms, a face, a 15 hour plane ride and a cold civil affairs office on the other side of the world….we became a family of five.
It was the calling that changed our lives, a calling that took our lives from the easy and comfortable; to hard and unknown. But what we found in the hard and unknown…there is also beauty. He gives more grace and more glimpses of Himself in that sweet girl than I have ever found before.
We are a family of both biological children and an adoptive child. Today, we have been home 14 months with our Chinese daughter, Emaline Joy, and she is as much a part of my flesh as my sons are. The beauty that we found is seeing our boys, extended family and friends’ hearts grow and love her unconditionally. She is woven into the fabric of our family.
Layton, my oldest son asked me once, “Mom, why didn’t you want another baby in your tummy?” I told him about the Lord calling mommy and daddy on mission and how we saw things that changed our hearts and it led us to China.
He said, “Good, I’m glad! Because if you had had a baby, we wouldn’t have Emie.”
Yes, yes, sweet boy. Yes.
Life is not easy or comfortable now. And I’m so glad it isn’t….it is so much more!
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