Adoption has always been God’s “Plan A.” Ephesians 1:5 says “He (The Father) predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will.” These stories are from those who have chosen adoption as “Plan A.”
Today Kristen shares her story…..
Adoption has always been on my heart. Even when I was a teenager I remember knowing that I wanted to adopt at some point in my life. If you had asked me then I would tell you that I would adopt from China. I don’t know where my desire for adoption came from, especially my desire to adopt from China –I would guess the China thing was just because that was the context in which I heard adoption mentioned from the most. So, when my husband and I were dating we talked about adoption, and agreed that we would like to adopt some day. We got married and 3ish years later started talking about starting a family.
First, we started looking into what it would take for us to have a child biologically. I have a hormone disorder called Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and we knew it would be harder to conceive if that’s what we decided to do. Around the same time we started looking into international adoption, praying and gathering information. About a month into our “practice” fertility treatments we had already spent over $1,000 and I didn’t like the effects of the drugs I was on. At the same time we started to feel like we were being called to adopt. To be honest, I already knew we were going to adopt, it was just something God put on my heart in a way that I knew it was what we would do before we even started to think about it more seriously. For us adoption is our plan A. We probably could have biological children if we wanted to, but we decided to adopt instead and we are continuously thankful that God called us to this.
So, we told my doctor to stop our fertility treatments and that we were going to adopt. We signed up with an agency to adopt from Ethiopia. We got as far as being approved before I started to feel like we should change paths. We heard some things we weren’t comfortable with and the wait for a child was going to be a lot longer than we were originally told. So, we went to a meeting with our agency about domestic adoption and the next day decided to switch to the domestic infant adoption program. Again, I knew we were going to do this before we went to the meeting. God puts things on my heart in a way that only He can and in a way that I understand His plan for me one part at a time. One thing that is so clear in our adoption story is that God called us to international adoption to ultimately call us to domestic adoption. If we had started out being called to domestic adoption I don’t know that we would have been open to it because we weren’t educated in what that meant. But God used what He knew we were comfortable with to draw us to His will.
As of now we have been a waiting family for just over a year. The wait is hard, really hard, like you don’t understand how hard it is unless you’ve been here, but we know it will be so worth it. We are putting our hope in God and not in our agency, our social worker, or even a baby. We have grown to love adoption so much and hope to continue to be advocates for it because no matter what the circumstances children need families. Our love for adoption has lead us to hope to eventually do foster care as well, because we have grown to understand that we are not just adopting to get a baby, we are adopting to give a child a family and that is the point of adoption.
I LOVE to talk about adoption and answer questions personal or general, so please don’t hesitate to contact me. You can read more of our story on my blog, Waiting Quietly, and contact me from there as well.
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