Welcome to TUESDAY TALK!
*I’m so glad to have you join me this Tuesday for our weekly Tuesday Talk Link-Up! Before linking up, let me share with you some things I’ve been learning from one of the best parenting books I’ve read in awhile!
In this brand-new book by Kristen Welch, discover how saying “no” can lead to life’s biggest “yes.”
One of the most challenging things I face is making my children happy. I really want to make them happy. My husband and I were talking the other day about this. We were reflecting on our childhood and all of the happy moments. We said: “We just want them to have a happy childhood.”
Can I tell you a secret: ITS OK! Its ok to want to make your children happy. (Quick disclaimer: You won’t succeed 100% of the time). I realize happiness isn’t the end all either. We’ve given up on the idea that our children will always be happy. Its just not going to happen. They will get mad. Or sad. But that’s life. We can’t keep them happy their entire lives. But, wanting your children to have joy is not wrong. There. I said it. Don’t feel guilty for wanting your children to be happy. Its how you go about making your children happy that’s important.
After reading Kristen’s book, I realize happiness isn’t going to be found in giving them things. I will not create happiness or joy when I buy them whatever they want. Or succumb to all of their wishes. Happiness will be found when they give. I know that. But do they? I will have to model it for them. I will have to show them how I deny my wants in order to give.
As my children get older, we want to encourage (maybe push/force) them to step out of their comfort zones and serve. Yes, simple service begins at home. The best thing to give someone is your time. I want to teach my children to give their time, money, and energy to others. Service can start now. My children are 7, 5, 3, and (almost) 3. They can begin to serve even at a young age. I’ve started letting the youngest ones set the table. I make her take her brother’s and sister’s plates to the table first. She would love to carry all of her stuff in and sit down to get ready to eat. But instead, I make her carry in everyone else’s first. I used to make them each carry their their own things to the table. Now, I have them carry someone else’s to the table.
Its small. But that’s ok. Service starts with small steps.
If I want my children to be happy, I need to teach them to give, not get. Things will not make them happy. Good experiences will not make them happy. Serving God and others will make them happy. It might make them uncomfortable, but it will not make them sad. It might make them hurt, but after it is all said in done: joy will come.
Read more about this in Kristen’s book!
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