3 Steps for Finding Quiet Time When Life is Loud
Ok, when they hand you that sweet little baby for the first time in the hospital, I think there should be a pamphlet entitled “Things to Know.” Here are a few I would put in it:
- All of the overwhelming emotions are normal.
- Don’t worry if he/she doesn’t poop in two or three days. A week is when you should be worried.
- Sleep when the baby sleeps. Yes, do it.
- No, you will not have a “ton of free” time with a new baby.
That last one should have been a no-brainer for me. But as a new momma, I thought for sure I would get SO MUCH done as a stay-at-home mom…..nope. I still did all of our laundry on Saturdays when my husband was home, struggling to make dinner each night, and falling asleep in the afternoon with the baby. My “quiet time” was nonexistent. It was a rude awaking to have to care for someone ALL DAY LONG. The things I loved to do were pushed to the side. At first I was ok with it. Until my quiet time was one of the things I pushed aside. Suddenly I felt out of touch from God and spiritually I was became dry.
In the dry season, I became so thirsty, but also discouraged because I couldn’t figure out when or how to find time to meet with God. I felt like I was tired all of the time and this little human took up ALL of my “extra time.” I can’t remember what exactly changed, only I knew something needed to change. Maybe it was when I was so irritable and crying all of the time, but I remember just starting small.
I began reading a simple Bible reading plan – just three chapters a day. I began to attend a local Bible study at my church to help me dig deeper. As the months, then the years passed, I changed my “quiet time” with the addition of each child and shift of seasons. I did different things – did it in the mornings, did it in the afternoons, did it in the evenings.
I don’t believe there is a perfect way to balance motherhood and devotional time. I only know it MUST BE DONE. I read an article a few years ago. It spoke to my heart with the idea that motherhood is hard no matter how many kids you have. My life with four children is a lot different, and sure, having just one child is SUPER easy, but it wasn’t at the time.
I remember the struggles and heartaches associated with my first born. The beautiful thing about God’s Word is that it is always the same. So no matter your season now, or the season awaiting around the corner…our God remains the same. There is not step-by-step method for studying the Bible as a mother, but these tips have helped me stay focused.
The steps I lay out here are for you to use, shift, and adjust to fit YOUR life.
3 Steps to Finding Quiet Time When Life is Loud
Step 1 – Get rid of the distractions you can. We can’t just “get rid” of the kids….so I try and get rid of at least the distractions I can control. I get up early because it is the best time, but I find I’m still distracted. So I put away my phone, turn off my computer and just open my journals and God’s Word. I also spend the mornings dreaming and writing. It has been a hard habit to develop, but I have succeeded so far because I know I am a better mom if I get less sleep and have quiet time.
Step 2 – Make a plan. Decide when you want to do your quiet time and make it a priority. Also choose a Bible reading plan so you aren’t just opening up God’s Word and reading here and there. Right now I’m reading through the Psalms. I’ve also used this Bible reading plan to read through the entire Bible (not in a year!) I would also suggest you find a good Bible study. I have a couple of devotional series below if you want to check them out. – Don’t forget – we are starting our own Balanced Motherhood Devotional Series in March! Sign up here!
Step 3 – Invest in some good music and earbuds. On the days I couldn’t get up, or when a kid woke up early, or when I need some extra quiet time during the day, I use my music. I plug in my earbuds, get the kids either laid down for nap, watching a show, or reading some books. Here is my playlist for Bible study. I set a timer to let them know how long I need to work and I get busy. It helps break up my day and gives me just that extra boost of energy in the afternoon to make it until bedtime.
BONUS STEP – One last thing. Don’t fret about the perfect quiet time experience. Trust God to meet you right where you are. I don’t always spend a ton of time in prayer or Bible study. I sometimes find my mind filled with distractions or a lack of direction. No matter what, I try to fill my heart with at least one verse for the day – and have found God is enough, in even just that.
What about you? How do you have quiet time with your little (loud) ones? How do you find balance with your quiet time?
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Motherhood: A Balanced Perspective blog series
For the next three weeks, beginning Thursday, February 9, Ruthie Gray, Keri Snyder, and I will share what God has taught us regarding balance in each of our parenting stages. Read the first post here.
Motherhood: A Balanced Perspective devotional series
Next, we’ll go deeper on how to choose the good portion with a 7-day devotional email series called, Motherhood: A Balanced Perspective, launching the first week in March.
This email devotional series will include Scripture, inspiration, and Mama Mantras to keep you balanced throughout your day. We’ll also include a beautiful printable of the Mama Mantras for you to use as a visual reminder!
The Balanced Perspective Team
Sarah is a mother of four little ones (one adopted) and invites you to study God’s Word in your ordinary day.
Keri is a momma of three who believes being intentional and choosing joy is a choice we get to make each day.
Ruthie is a momma to grown children and mentors moms to capture joy in each parenting transition.
But wait! There’s more!
Join the Balanced Perspective Webinar
Thursday, March 2, at 8:30PM, we will be hosting a webinar to launch the email series, Motherhood: A Balanced Perspective. Please sign up here to reserve your spot (HINT: there’s a special giveaway you won’t want to miss)!
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