Welcome Means You Can Be Yourself
Shoes are the biggest difference between me and my husband. Not the size, but what we do with them.
Do you want to know the difference between country people and city people? I mean sure. There are lots of obvious difference, but one of the MAIN things I’ve seen marrying into a “country” family and being from a “city” is shoes. That’s right. When we enter someone’s home, my husband will immediately take off his shoes. I, on the other hand, will keep them on.
For my husband, it is a sign of respect to take off your shoes, so you don’t track in mud and water. For me, leaving your shoes on is a sign of respect. Yep. Sorry, for you take-your-shoes-off-people. I usually keep mine on because I am a guest. And guests don’t live here. They are just visiting. If I lived at a house, I would take my shoes off. If I don’t, I leave them on.
It used to bother me and make me feel really uncomfortable when I took my shoes off at my in-laws. Weird. I know. When someone comes to my house, I never ever ask them to take their shoes off! In fact, I don’t even notice
Part of inviting people into my house is to make them feel “welcome” and welcome means being yourself. If you are a shoes-on kind of person, keep them on! If you are a shoes-off kind of person, keep them on! When I have guests to my home, I want to invite them in to relax and be themselves.
The shoes-on / off debate made me think about friendships the same way. I don’t “do” friensdhips the way my husband does friendsips. For one, he is a guy, side note, I HIGHLY recommend this book to help you understand your man. But I also realized I don’t do friendships like other women either.
We all have different levels of friendship and define friendship in different ways. Its ok! Just because somone has 100 friends she keeps close to her heart, doens’t mean I need 100. In fact, I can keep 2-3 friends close and feel completely happy.
Friendship and feeling welcome is about being yourself. No more guilt about how to do friendships. No more guilt about how many friends and at what levels those friends are at. NO more friendship comparison. Being yourself is something foundational with friendships.
Can I suggest you also check out my other article, 5 Steps to Making (and Keeping) Friendships ? 🙂
Welcome to our NEW link-up! I’m so excited to share with you this new opportunity to connect with other bloggers. For now, Welcome Wednesday will post once a week, on Wednesday mornings at 7AM. We have SEVEN co-hosts (myself and six other bloggers!) Please take a moment and follow each blogger on at least ONE social media 🙂
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- Follow each host on at least ONE social media.
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